Thursday 17 December 2015

Dinner with friends and hope for a sober Christmas

It's school holidays, yay!! The little guy now has 6 weeks off school. I love it!. I enjoy having him around and it's a nice break from the daily school drop offs. I'll never understand parents who dread school holidays!

We went out to dinner last night with a group of friends from school. And hardly anyone drank! My friend C had a couple of sparkling wines, our hubby's had a couple of beers and that was it. I'm sure if I was drinking C and I would have shared a bottle or two of sparkling but she only had a couple. I didn't miss it at all (well, maybe a little bit) and was happy to have my diet cokes. We all had a lovely evening and it was a nice way to finish off the school year. I'm beginning to think that a sober Christmas is not out of my reach after all.

I haven't told my family yet that I won't be drinking over the holidays. We are all going up to mum's place in the country next Wednesday/Thursday and staying for about a week. I don't want to make a big announcement. I might just casually mention it when I'm up there. I don't know, maybe I should make a big thing of it. What do you think? I might just play it by ear. I'm still not ready to say I've given up drinking forever. I still struggle with that concept. So I am just taking it one day at a time for now.

I was watching the children at the restaurant last night. At their sheer delight in seeing each other (even though they'd only seen each other a few hours before at school!) and the joy on their faces was priceless. They take delight in the moment and have so much fun, all without a foreign substance running through their bodies. When did it become essential for adults to stop being able to have fun without alcohol? I'm going to try and enjoy my Christmas and holidays like a child. I'm going to take delight in giving presents and playing with the children. I'm going to try and live in the moment and let the holiday flow (thanks for that list SM!) And I believe I can do all that without having any wine.

Day 25 today.

A x

9 comments:

  1. Sounds like you're doing great! You're right, re-learning how to be delighted without booze is definitely worth it. And you know it's possible, because kids do it all the time! Re forever, I'm a big fan of ignoring that whole concept and just taking things as they come. It's just easier. Anyway, hooray you! xo

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    1. Thanks Thirsty. Taking things as they come is a great idea. I'm going to do that. It's much easier that way. A x

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  2. You have a great plan. Enjoy holidays as a child. As far as telling everyone and making a big thing out of not drinking, I don't know what to say. See how it goes, and decide to do whatever is easier for you. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Pressure triggers cravings. At least for me.

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    1. Yes, pressure can trigger cravings. And there is enough pressure at this time of year without adding more! I might just see how I feel when I get up there. A x

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  3. Make a big announcement. Let th m support you.
    I expect they have heard you talk about quitting or cutting back before.

    My first year I declared I was having an alcohol free year to focus on me. People respected that and were mostly happy for me (a few scoffed, those people aren't friends any more).

    You have been working on this for a while. Take the plunge. I think you will find it relieving.

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    1. I know you're right Anne. I'm just not ready to make a big announcement. I know I am probably being a big chicken. It IS scary. I will see how i feel when i am there. A x

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  4. Hi Angie!
    Telling my friends and family was so helpful to me. It kept me accountable, and they are so supportive!
    I am learning how to love life sober!
    I am happy you are seeing it, too!
    xo
    Wendy

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    1. Hi Wendy,
      I will tell them that I am not drinking but I don't want to make a big deal about it. I know they would be supportive, but I'm just not ready to make a big announcement. We'll see. I might feel differently when I'm there. A x

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  5. What are the five points that are recommended by sober mummy?i could not find them

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