Friday 10 July 2015

Day 54

I'm back home after a lovely week in the country with my family. I'm sorry I haven't responded to the comments on my last post. It was hard to blog in a household full of people!

It was frustrating having mum refer to my not drinking as 'doing my no wine thing' and 'Dry Julying'. But in fairness to her, she doesn't know the real story. She doesn't know because I haven't told her. She knows I drank too much, and wanted me to cut down. But I didn't come out and give a big announcement. I didn't want any fuss, and I guess I don't want people to know how bad it was. How bad I was. I still can't admit it to myself half the time. So, in the end it doesn't matter that mum didn't give me credit for not drinking. The main thing is that I'm not drinking. 

I was really pleased to see my brother cutting down on his alcohol intake. I didn't get a chance to have a good chat with him about it, but I did tell him that I'm not drinking for 100 days. I was hoping I might inspire him. But I wish I had had a chance to talk to him some more. To find out what he is thinking. It was just hard with 14 people in the house! He really needs help to stop drinking as he is physically dependent. He would need a medically supervised detox. But at least he is thinking about his drinking. That's a start.

I thought I might have some cravings whilst away but I didn't. I won't lie though, I did think a couple of times that it would be nice to have a glass of wine around the camp fire. But then I told myself that it wouldn't have been one glass and I would have felt dreadful in the morning. So they were just fleeting thoughts really, not cravings as such.

It feels good to know I can go on a holiday and not drink. Okay, so it wasn't a beach holiday in the summer but it was still a holiday. I usually drink heaps when I'm at mums and last visit I even hid bottles of wine under the bed. So to know I don't need to drink whist up there feels good.

Tonight we are going out to dinner with my friend C and her hubby and son. I enjoy going out with them. I am going to have to be firm though and tell her that I am not drinking for an extended period. Hopefully she will get it and not pressure me to drink.

Today is day 54. Can you believe it?!! I can't. I never thought I would get this far. It feels so good.

A x

6 comments:

  1. Congrats Angie! I still have a tough time going to my parents house because of the booze. You did great.... Such a strong lady. Xo

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    1. Thanks SM. I am getting stronger I think. Hopefully I will get even stronger as time goes on.
      A x

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  2. Great job.
    It is harde to get a response from people of they don't understand. And not everyone will respond how we expect, which can also be worrying.
    I hope your brother finds his way. Maybe you will become the example he needs.
    Anne

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    1. Thanks Anne. I think I have to stop worrying what other people think. It's been a life-long problem and I am over it!
      Yes, I hope my brother finds his way. I don't want him to end up like our father.
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  3. Way to go Angie!
    You are doing it!
    And realizing how much better life can be!!
    xo
    Wendy

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    1. Thanks Wendy. Life is SO much better this way!
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