Ah, the irritating spouse. Mine is really on my last nerve and has been for the last two weeks, at least! Sometimes all that stands between me and the wine (as a theoretical antidote to his moodiness/aggravation/etc) is playing it out to where - several wines in - I somehow become the bad guy, the weak one, the problem. As long as I keep wine out of the equation, I can (a) maintain some level of calm & perspective on his nonsense (wine will drown any of that and immediately escalate whatever is going wrong) and (b) keep myself out of the 'penalty box' of being drunk/ranty/teary/stupid. Hope your day gets better.Hugs,SR
Thanks SR. Great advice as always. I didn't drink and I know it wouldn't have helped the situation anyway, perhaps made it worse! It's just hard to deal with things sometimes when you can't have a drink. Such a learning curve! A x
SR. has given you perfect advice.This is your life. Don't let others take away your power.Anne
So true Anne. I have to keep reminding myself that. I often say to myself that only I can be responsible for my own happiness but it's easier said than done! When you are having problems with your spouse it's easy to reach for the wine. Thank goodness I didn't though. Btw, I'm still very annoyed but in particular me fashion I will bottle it all inside which I know isn't healthy for me. A x
My experience has been that many of the problems I had with my spouse were stemming from my drinking. I was just generally unhappy and could be bitter and mean when drinking. Booze does not open lines of communication. Take care. Anger and frustration are dangerous things!Anne
In the past, I would at times become argumentative when drinking but not always. Unfortunately, my husband has issues of his own (not drinking though) which often fills me with anger and resentment, often justified I feel. Guess it's a struggle now that I can't give myself an excuse to drink! Maybe I should blog about it instead of keeping it all bottled up inside! A x
How did February go?
Unfortunately I only got to 22 days. I was hoping to be able to continue AF whilst on holiday but it was not to be. I think I talked myself into drinking before we even got here :( Is there any hope for me??
Of course there is hope for you! Take care of yourself. That is number one. Then it comes back to what do you want? I know the idea that life can be fun and exciting sober seems impossible to believe, but it is true.
I am so disappointed in myself. I had visions of early mornings swims with me sun. Sadly this hasn't happened. Instead waking grumpy with a sore head. Why does drinking seem like such a good idea in the evening and like such shit in the morning? Oh that's right... alcohol is poison! Wish I could just drink it normally :(
That was meant to say early morning swims with my sun. I can barely see the letters on my iphone!
I wish I knew how we all get trapped believing it is a good idea.I had so many sore head days. Breaking th habit is hard. But once you do it will be early mornings and a huge feelings f freedom.